#LEAPLessonsJan2Dec2016: Successful People Listen

listening

Ever made a conscious decision not to speak but be quiet and listen? Sometimes, you stop yourself from uttering a word because from the get-go, you’ve made up your mind “all I want to do is listen”! On occasions; the moments when you desperately want to say something, maybe air your views on a matter, the voice in your head calmly says to you” Heyyy…..waaiit a minute. You said you were juuuust gonna listen right?” Then you recline back on your seat or put your hand over your mouth in a way that communicates your “listening mode,”.

We’ve all been there. Sometimes it’s best to  listen; To talk less and take in more; To understand fully not halfheartedly; To be among those in flying colours, should an impromptu test be conducted, because you did very well internalizing the information you received.

We have found in our experiences with various groups of people this year, and even among us as a team, that the individuals who learn better and faster are those who quietened their minds to receive the lessons taught to them. These individuals might have their own reservations, but rather than fight these new ideals, contending with every line of thought shared, they simply hold off and say “Hmm…maybe I can learn something new today”. 

Listening begets learning. We asked a gentle man not too long ago what his interests are and he responded “I listen a lot. I like to pay attention to anything I am not good at. Those kinds of stuff interest me”. 

Michael Taft, Author of The Mindful Gee says learning to listen means learning to actually pay attention to — to concentrate on — what other people are saying. Listening to their words as if listening to a favorite song, with your mind focused on what the singer is saying and what the lyrics mean. Concentrated listening is also called “active listening” or “deep listening.” Deep listening gives greatly increased concentration, enjoyment of music as well as other humans, and — perhaps most importantly — a profoundly positive shift in the quality of relationships.

To support that, a study conducted at the University of Amsterdam overturned one of the basic tenets of the science of music: that musical training is the only way to develop musical ability. According to these researchers, the simple act of listening to music develops some amount of musical ability within the brain. All it needs is exposure to that type of music.

If you want to listen better, you have to take baby steps. Once you get this skill right, you’ll just keep getting better and better at gleaning information where ever you are. The first step in learning to listen is to learn to be quiet. Make a friend of silence. This can be difficult because nobody wants to be thought of as dull. There is a natural desire to respond quickly, and to be seen as interesting and smart. But if you resist this urge even a little bit, a new thing can begin to happen. The wise individuals around us are usually the best listeners.

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One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say

Is listening more top on your 2017 plan? Leave a comment below.

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